Let’s look at the Habits of the Mentally strong

What does it mean to be mentally strong? To be considered mentally         strong do you have to go through hell in life? Have a series of bad luck     events? Win over life’s obstacles? Sure, that’s what we expect. You don’t have to move a mountain or survive a war to be mentally strong though.

There are heroes all around us every day—people who set wonderful examples of how to live. All we have to do is take notice and train ourselves to think and behave in a stronger, more resilient way.

    1) Learn from mistakes, but don’t think about them all the time 

“Everyone makes mistakes.” How many times have you heard that? A thousand times? Well it obviously isn’t doing you any good if you’re still beating yourself over things that have happened in the past.

The idea isn’t to forget your mistakes altogether, but to be able to look at them objectively and forgive yourself the way you would forgive another person for doing the same thing. It’s true that we tend to be our most harsh judges.

Mentally strong people learn from their mistakes and they try not to  them.

    2) Celebrate others’ success

It takes a mentally strong person to truly take joy in the success of others. Many of us have been guilty of envy at some point in our lives. Often we’re envious of people we don’t like very much. But sometimes we’re even envious of the people we love most!

How can you stop feeling this way?

If you 

     3) take responsibility for your actions (another rule of the mentally strong), you realize that people get what they deserve—including you. From the outside it’s easy to discount someone else’s success— assuming that their outside appearance or their family’s wealth or something else is responsible.

You wouldn’t want people thinking that about you, would you?

     4) Avoid complaining, and criticizing.

Wastes of time.

Whining and criticizing are weaknesses. They don’t bring any successbut bring everyone else around you down.

Many coaches and leaders.  

     5) Inspire others with confidence and optimism

You can and you should inspire others even when they go through crisis. Who would you rather spend your time with, someone who points out the obvious? Or someone who can take a negative experience and turn it into something positive?

Impress yourselves, not others.

Narcissism is skyrocketing these days, fueled largely by social media. But wanting to impress others is not a new trait. Certainly not.

People who focus on impressing themselves are constantly improving. People who try and impress others around them will always end up feeling inadequate. True satisfaction comes from inside yourself. It sounds kind of corny, but when you think about it you’ll realize that it’s absolutely true.

     6) Feel grateful!

How much would you pay to keep your eyes seeing. What are they worth to you? You would probably put up every penny you have for your eyesight, for your mobility, for you ability to speak.

You take the basics for granted. We all do from time to time. But being completely oblivious to the suffering of others is to be unable to adequately appreciate your own life. No matter how bad you think you’ve got it, somebody has it worse.

      7) Mentally strong people always count their blessings. Try waking up every day and thinking of some things to be thankful for. Do the same before you go to sleep.

      8) Reject entitlement!

There are few things in life that people deserve. Everyone deserves life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness—but that’s about it.

If you feel entitled to a perfect life, you’re going to find yourself bouncing from one disappointment to the next.

Mentally tough people realize that life is hard—always has been—and that knowledge makes the sweet days that much sweeter.

How can you appreciate anything at all if you’re always expecting things to go your way?

      9) Own your emotions!

Mentally tough people would never say something like, “John makes me so angry!”

Why not?

Because they’re not going to let John, whoever he is, own their emotions. How can John make you anything? He has control over what he does and you have control over how you respond to it.  It’s an enlightening and liberating notion.